Dorothy of Oz-Twisted!
In this toy we see the offender in all its ugliness and the victim dressed up in the perpetrator's fantasy. This toy picks on Dorothy of Oz because of the innocence of that image. This toy also relates to sex offender treatment and the untoward desires some individuals harbor and exhibit. The little monster men unfortunately resemble my image of some sex offenders - the uninviting nature of their predilections. Sex offending is, after all, an illegitimate way of getting legitimate needs met. If one engages in paraphilias, consent is essential. This toys raises the issue of what lives in the fantasy zone and what any individual is doing with those fantasies. There is that boundary between acting in and acting out: between having fantasies and keeping them to yourself, and forcing others to act them out under duress.
In real life, offenders who capture victims because of their intense fantasies about them, seldom get their fantasies fulfilled. The fantasy does not include the victim's likely actual reaction: the fear, screaming, crying, refusal, horror. All too often, a victim is killed or wounded because of their unwillingness to act out the perpetrator's wishes and fantasies from the get go. And all too often, perpetrators' knowledge of other humans and their needs and motivations is warped by their own insularity and estrangement from others.
Offending is often like the earth opening up and being pulled down into hell, not unlike Hades capturing Persephone and Persephone not at all interested in what Hades had in mind.
Re: the Hoberman Sphere: in an offense the Hoberman opens all the way up, pushed open by intense hunger that has grown to vampyrish strength and bounds. The victim is pulled into the world of the perpetrator's core and separated from their everyday life and community. When the offense is over, should the victim escape, the perpetrator goes away untroubled and the victim has been contaminated by the perpetrator's core and begins to think ill of themselves, typically taking far more responsibility for what transpired than the offender ever does. The perpetrator's contamination has a poisoning effect.
In treatment, we want to put salt on the offender's tail so they can't just fly away carefree, leaving the ugliness behind in the victim for them to feel bad about themselves. They also need to lay claim to the contaminants and do the work on their own core so that eventually, the community is safe with them in it!
In this toy we see the offender in all its ugliness and the victim dressed up in the perpetrator's fantasy. This toy picks on Dorothy of Oz because of the innocence of that image. This toy also relates to sex offender treatment and the untoward desires some individuals harbor and exhibit. The little monster men unfortunately resemble my image of some sex offenders - the uninviting nature of their predilections. Sex offending is, after all, an illegitimate way of getting legitimate needs met. If one engages in paraphilias, consent is essential. This toys raises the issue of what lives in the fantasy zone and what any individual is doing with those fantasies. There is that boundary between acting in and acting out: between having fantasies and keeping them to yourself, and forcing others to act them out under duress.
In real life, offenders who capture victims because of their intense fantasies about them, seldom get their fantasies fulfilled. The fantasy does not include the victim's likely actual reaction: the fear, screaming, crying, refusal, horror. All too often, a victim is killed or wounded because of their unwillingness to act out the perpetrator's wishes and fantasies from the get go. And all too often, perpetrators' knowledge of other humans and their needs and motivations is warped by their own insularity and estrangement from others.
Offending is often like the earth opening up and being pulled down into hell, not unlike Hades capturing Persephone and Persephone not at all interested in what Hades had in mind.
Re: the Hoberman Sphere: in an offense the Hoberman opens all the way up, pushed open by intense hunger that has grown to vampyrish strength and bounds. The victim is pulled into the world of the perpetrator's core and separated from their everyday life and community. When the offense is over, should the victim escape, the perpetrator goes away untroubled and the victim has been contaminated by the perpetrator's core and begins to think ill of themselves, typically taking far more responsibility for what transpired than the offender ever does. The perpetrator's contamination has a poisoning effect.
In treatment, we want to put salt on the offender's tail so they can't just fly away carefree, leaving the ugliness behind in the victim for them to feel bad about themselves. They also need to lay claim to the contaminants and do the work on their own core so that eventually, the community is safe with them in it!
In this toy we see the offender in all its ugliness and the victim dressed up in the perpetrator's fantasy. This toy picks on Dorothy of Oz because of the innocence of that image. This toy also relates to sex offender treatment and the untoward desires some individuals harbor and exhibit. The little monster men unfortunately resemble my image of some sex offenders - the uninviting nature of their predilections. Sex offending is, after all, an illegitimate way of getting legitimate needs met. If one engages in paraphilias, consent is essential. This toys raises the issue of what lives in the fantasy zone and what any individual is doing with those fantasies. There is that boundary between acting in and acting out: between having fantasies and keeping them to yourself, and forcing others to act them out under duress.
In real life, offenders who capture victims because of their intense fantasies about them, seldom get their fantasies fulfilled. The fantasy does not include the victim's likely actual reaction: the fear, screaming, crying, refusal, horror. All too often, a victim is killed or wounded because of their unwillingness to act out the perpetrator's wishes and fantasies from the get go. And all too often, perpetrators' knowledge of other humans and their needs and motivations is warped by their own insularity and estrangement from others.
Offending is often like the earth opening up and being pulled down into hell, not unlike Hades capturing Persephone and Persephone not at all interested in what Hades had in mind.
Re: the Hoberman Sphere: in an offense the Hoberman opens all the way up, pushed open by intense hunger that has grown to vampyrish strength and bounds. The victim is pulled into the world of the perpetrator's core and separated from their everyday life and community. When the offense is over, should the victim escape, the perpetrator goes away untroubled and the victim has been contaminated by the perpetrator's core and begins to think ill of themselves, typically taking far more responsibility for what transpired than the offender ever does. The perpetrator's contamination has a poisoning effect.
In treatment, we want to put salt on the offender's tail so they can't just fly away carefree, leaving the ugliness behind in the victim for them to feel bad about themselves. They also need to lay claim to the contaminants and do the work on their own core so that eventually, the community is safe with them in it!