Glow-In-The-Dark Mutant Hand: Whose Hand Is It?
The Incredible Glow-In-The-Dark Mutant Hand! No one ever wants to lay claim to it or what mischief it was up to. It crept into the daughter's room. The daughter reported the experience. It had to be the Mutant Hand!
In sex offender treatment, admitting to molesting your child can end your marriage on the spot! Lying about it can keep your marriage - sometimes - for a while anyway.
We say sex offenses, most of them, are ego-dystonic. In other words, out of tune with the offender's usual values and behaviors. What got into them?! When most men enter treatment, they can not admit to all or at least certain parts of their offense. They can't believe they did it. The cost of being honest is to high! Some people still believe their denial - why disappoint them!
Someone needs to own the Mutant Hands in your neighborhood. You can't manage it if you can't own it. And, sex offenses are illegitimate ways to meet legitimate needs. Own up to those needs, figure out if there is a legitimate way to meet that need, and if so, figure out a way to get it done or else live without it consciousness, knowingly, without sneaking a way to get it met and violating not only the law but the sanctity of your relationship with your children, your wife or partner, your community!!
Sometimes the need can not be met legitimately. At that point a means of managing that need/desire/obsession has to be developed and maintained for the obsession to be managed. Owning, accountability and managing are the crucial elements when a need can’t be met legitimately!
The Incredible Glow-In-The-Dark Mutant Hand! No one ever wants to lay claim to it or what mischief it was up to. It crept into the daughter's room. The daughter reported the experience. It had to be the Mutant Hand!
In sex offender treatment, admitting to molesting your child can end your marriage on the spot! Lying about it can keep your marriage - sometimes - for a while anyway.
We say sex offenses, most of them, are ego-dystonic. In other words, out of tune with the offender's usual values and behaviors. What got into them?! When most men enter treatment, they can not admit to all or at least certain parts of their offense. They can't believe they did it. The cost of being honest is to high! Some people still believe their denial - why disappoint them!
Someone needs to own the Mutant Hands in your neighborhood. You can't manage it if you can't own it. And, sex offenses are illegitimate ways to meet legitimate needs. Own up to those needs, figure out if there is a legitimate way to meet that need, and if so, figure out a way to get it done or else live without it consciousness, knowingly, without sneaking a way to get it met and violating not only the law but the sanctity of your relationship with your children, your wife or partner, your community!!
Sometimes the need can not be met legitimately. At that point a means of managing that need/desire/obsession has to be developed and maintained for the obsession to be managed. Owning, accountability and managing are the crucial elements when a need can’t be met legitimately!
The Incredible Glow-In-The-Dark Mutant Hand! No one ever wants to lay claim to it or what mischief it was up to. It crept into the daughter's room. The daughter reported the experience. It had to be the Mutant Hand!
In sex offender treatment, admitting to molesting your child can end your marriage on the spot! Lying about it can keep your marriage - sometimes - for a while anyway.
We say sex offenses, most of them, are ego-dystonic. In other words, out of tune with the offender's usual values and behaviors. What got into them?! When most men enter treatment, they can not admit to all or at least certain parts of their offense. They can't believe they did it. The cost of being honest is to high! Some people still believe their denial - why disappoint them!
Someone needs to own the Mutant Hands in your neighborhood. You can't manage it if you can't own it. And, sex offenses are illegitimate ways to meet legitimate needs. Own up to those needs, figure out if there is a legitimate way to meet that need, and if so, figure out a way to get it done or else live without it consciousness, knowingly, without sneaking a way to get it met and violating not only the law but the sanctity of your relationship with your children, your wife or partner, your community!!
Sometimes the need can not be met legitimately. At that point a means of managing that need/desire/obsession has to be developed and maintained for the obsession to be managed. Owning, accountability and managing are the crucial elements when a need can’t be met legitimately!