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“My question is really more of a confirmation of my
understanding in how Hermes' Web illustrates addiction.
The difference between someone who uses drugs and
never acts out violently during 'the flip' and someone who
uses and becomes a monster, to whatever degree, lies in
the stability of the connection between the ego and the core,
whether or not the addict is aware of what's in the core
when he is sober. Is that correct?"
Response From Jerry Fjerkenstad, MA, LP
Yes, essentially. When there is no connection between ego
and core, the flip is much more likely, especially when
fueled by a disinhibitor like drugs. When there is a good
connection between ego and core, it's far less likely you'll
even see a flip.
A flip allows the core the take center stage. A relationship
with the core means the core is in play, its needs and
perspectives are considered in one's behaviors. The
estrangement between ego and core and the lack of
relationship magnifies the core's need to get airtime. Also,
estrangement means it is more likely the core will remain
contaminated and thus, during a flip, things would be
messy. The flip would carry riders such as anger, rage, and
Those who have done more work tend to open like the
Hoberman Sphere, except more slowly, without the
jailbreak. They tend not to flip to the other side. Also, an
addict may actually be in the core much of the time and be
comfortable there, especially when intoxicated or altered.
All in all, the more work a person has done to
decontaminate his or her core, the less likely the flip will be
violent, should it happen.